5 easy steps to ask for the feedback we didn’t get but definitely need

Hi Elphas,

Earlier in my career, I was under the impression that if there is feedback that I need to receive, my manager will tell me about it. And then I realized that’s not true! My manager didn’t know everything about my work and my peers were scared of giving negative feedback, so they ended up not giving me feedback at all.

Research shows women are 20% less likely to receive actionable feedback!! This puts women at a clear disadvantage. And it doesn’t have to be this way!

My career trajectory changed dramatically the moment I learned to ask for feedback.

Asking for feedback can be scary, but it's essential for personal and professional growth. Learning to ask for feedback effectively can help us gain valuable insights, improve our skills, and boost our confidence.

So don't let fear hold you back - take the first step today by learning these 5 easy steps of asking for feedback:

  1. pick your sources: diversify!
  2. set the stage: be grateful, be prepared, and keep it short!
  3. formulate your request: focus on the qualities of helpful feedback (specific, timely, actionable, constructive)!
  4. reflect and process: let it sink in!
  5. close the loop: show people that their feedback matters!

And remember, the more you practice, the easier it gets.

If you want to learn more, check out my latest newsletter article!

How do you feel about asking for feedback? What are some tactics that have worked for you to receive better feedback? I’d love to hear from you.

Thank you,