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How Do You Talk To Yourself?https://beyondbetter.io

Last week three of my client sessions really made me think. They were all with senior leaders in high-growth start-ups. One a CTO, another a Product Leader and the 3rd Head of Marketing. Their employers (three different ones) were all relative rocket ships. And their internal monologues were all similar. The salient snippets: "You're less than", "not good enough", "about to be fired", "how could you be so stupid?", "what's wrong with you?", "You're such a failure....". You get the idea.They spoke to themselves so viciously --worse than they would ever speak to a spouse, friend , peer or employee. It was stunning. Every one of them was a high-performer. And since the CEOs are also my client --I knew that none was in any danger.They were all kind and compassionate people. But they were neither of those things when they spoke to themselves. Do you hear yourself in this? What does your inner monologue say to you that disempowers you and diminishes your sense of self? How do you confront the inevitable failures along the way to accomplishing very hard things? I know I could hear some of my own inner monologue as I spoke to these folks. Is this familiar to you? Have you heard yourself sound like this? How do you either turn down the volume or dismiss your inner monologue? While I have my own strategies, I wonder what your are? What allows you both to face regular failures and maintain your compassion and sense of humanity?
Hi! Yes I feel like women especially talk to themselves in such a harsh way but would never say these things to their friends or family. Although I try to remind myself what would I say if it were a friend in the same situation but def hard to catch yourself in the moment.
I sound like this all the time
Hi @robotgrrlgirl, How do you either turn off or dismiss that litany? You must have a strategy to keep striving with some optimism despite such disempowering input...