Hi lovely Elphas,
I have an issue I'm currently dealing with. I'm not even sure if it qualifies to be an issue or if I'm overthinking it, but just want to put it out there, since I'm unable to make peace with it -
I'm currently in a mid-senior role which is quite dynamic and needs great focus. In this job, one needs to always be on their toes with information, networking, communication and especially being vocal about the work they do. While I am all of this and trying to keep up with the demands of the job, I am inherently an introvert and don't like to toot my own horn at the workplace. But others in my team and esp. my line manager are all extroverts, having their chit chat all the time, they network very well within the team and with peers in other teams. Everyone knows about the work they do and get the respect for the work they do. On the other hand, while I am doing all the work required of me, I am unable to go the extra mile in terms of this personality change and bring visibility to my work.
To top this, in the recent times I feel my line manager has started to micro manage me even in the way I work (esp. he is very specific about the use of tasks management tools, has set elaborate SOPs and wants it to be done this way only). I'm not sure why he has started doing it in the last few months (it has been 6 months since I moved to his team and he started this at the around the 3rd month - he is new to the company as well). He points out my "mistakes" (which is everything I do other than what he has "instructed" me to do) both during my 1:1s and in team meetings. He does this way with others in the team too, but with me I feel it is a lot more "spoon-feeding / hand-holding"-ish. Plus he documents every single thing, including the "mistakes" I made and the suggestions he gives (basically the corrections). My gut tells me he is gathering evidence to come at me during performance review / any other time. May be I am wrong & overthinking.. but somehow he manages to rub me on the wrong side each time he speaks with me. He also compliments my work during team meetings, but I can feel it is very superficial / namesake.
Rest of the team finds his ways acceptable and lauds him for his ways.. however it is against my natural ways of working and adding additional stress to my already challenging work. I'm not sure what I should do about it.
Should I take it as it is for my own good and look at this as a learning process? OR should I put my foot down and stand up for myself?
If it helps, I'm the only woman on the team, rest are all men in 35-45 age group. In total it is 6 of us. I am a feminist and hate to use the female card, but in this circumstance I can't help be feel the difference. At this moment it is all too cloudy for me, and I'm unable to think clearly.
Any pointers / input from you would be of great help!
Thank you :)