Hey Elpha members!
I recently took a startup job for less pay and benefits because I thought it would be less strict, less stressful, and respected work-life balance more than my well-paying agency job. I'm a month in and it turns out to be wrong. It was more stressful, more disorganized, and more strict.
During my interview with the lead (they didn't have a dedicated HR team yet), I asked about the work-life balance and culture of the company. (I have work trauma from a startup I worked for a few years ago and I wanted to know what the current team values.)
The interviewer from the get-go had this warm and friendly energy (virtually) and I immediately liked her. I felt good about the company. When I asked her the work-life balance and team culture questions, she told me it was "pretty chill" and they value work-life balance, they weren't strict (flexible hours).
I was sold.
I was burnt out from my previous job and this new company seemed to be a good place to slow down. Silly me for thinking this.
The lead left 2 weeks into my job and the new lead seems to be the exact opposite. He had so many projects and so many tasks for our team that we'd end up working late (over 8 hours a day). He'd message us late into the evening and would change our meetings last minute. Our Jira board is useless since he just messages us what to do and doesn't translate it to a Jira task. When I told him that it was too much (professionally, of course), he told me I should have known what I signed up for, given that it's a startup.
Maybe that's on me, to be honest, for being ignorant.
This sudden shift in leadership was too jarring for me and I'm finding it hard to adjust. And to be honest, I don't want to adjust. I find myself not speaking up because I know the new lead will shut it down and I don't feel empowered in my role. I only took this job because I thought it would be slower than my previous job, but that's on me. I find myself thinking of quitting not even three months into the job. I'm too old to hustle and grind every day, I just want to live slow but I feel like a failure for leaving so soon. Steady income is something I need, too.
What would your advice to someone on my position, Elpha members?