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I got drunk to my company‘s Xmas dinner🙈

Lenore52·Dec 11, 2021

Posted in:Advice

Hi Elphas!

Recently, I landed a great position in a well-known company. Normally, I am a shy and low-key person, yet I had too much alcohol at the company‘s dinner party. As a matter of fact, everyone was totally drunk, but I am the new person, and I didn‘t want to give a wrong impression.

Following up with people, I didn‘t get any negative vibe; the opposite was true. People were very friendly and sweet towards me, telling me they loved my vibe and asking if I arrived home safe.

Yet, I don‘t want to allow gossip to evolve (I mean, can anyone avoid that, really?) So, now I feel a bit embarrassed that I let myself get drunk, and I am concerned if this will have any side-effect on my reputation. I normally don‘t drink at all (that‘s why I got so drunk on a couple of cocktails), but I know I should have known better, and that was not the place for me to get drunk.

Before I beat myself up too much, I‘d like your thoughts on this. How do I deal with this in the future and not give anyone reason to gossip about me?

Iynna·Dec 11, 2021

Hello!I totally understand your stress here. I have been there and so have many people, as I say "it happens to the best of us" haha! Sounds like you guys all have a great time, they loved you and had a good time with you. They probably appreciate seeing you letting loose etc so to me this does not sound bad at all (quite the opposite, as a matter of fact, I have noticed that sometimes drinking alcohol can help you create a bond with someone, of course this is not to suggest that we should all be drinking irresponsibly etc. )My advice to you is don't make it a regular occurrence and you will be fine! Also if you do get drun k again in the future, don't be sloppy drunk ie. don't fall around, or do smth inappropriate (if you already know your limit, enlist a friend to make sure you never get to that level) You'll be just fine!Congratulations on the role!

Aileen·Dec 12, 2021

Well done on landing the job. We’ve all done over done it at work parties…. It’s almost a rite of passage. You seem to have weathered it fine. Don’t stress on it…. Iynnas advice above is bang on. Best of luck.