So frustrated..

Hi my name is Joyce Lee. I recently joined this platform cause I need help. I have been jobless since 2016 and my mom basically is ignoring me when I tell her that I want a job. when I tell her I want a job she says "do you know how hard having a job is?" and never helps me out and also when I'm on my phone looking for a job she complains that im on my phone too much and doesn't care when I tell her what I'm doing on my phone. I don't know what to do. She acts like I'm too stupid to have a job

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I'm so sorry to hear of your experience with your mom! Certainly doesn't make it any easier for you to be in the job search process right now without her support. I know it's easier said that done, but is it possible to continue your job search process in a productive way without her understanding the reason why you want / need one? It sounds to me like your past effort in explaining it to her hasn't been fruitful and also quite energy draining, and I wonder if it may be easier for you to just focus your energy on the job search itself and not seeking her validation or understanding in tandem, as I would imagine that can be very overwhelming!
If you want to work, go for it! Just keep at it. What kinds of jobs are you looking for? The job hunt can be hard, so it is important to target your search in a strategic way.
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I want to just go for it and get a job but it’s been sooooo long since the last time I had a job back in 2016
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Hi @joycehwl, if you're having any challenges with job searching, here are a few job search best practices I'd consider:- Determine what support system you have in place to help you be effective throughout your job search -- Most people feel they have to go it alone and end up guessing where to spend their time versus leveraging a coach, mentor, peer or other tools and resources to be strategic- Most importantly is understanding how/where to spend your time wisely -- its not all about the online apps but networking is a critical component, as well as balancing some time for other key activities in job search (virtual events, thought leadership, research, reflection, etc)- Determine your accountability plan to make sure you're staying on top of your goals & staying organized- Reflect on how things are going on a weekly basis to iterate & improve your approach and thus your outcomes-Be sure not to approach the job in a transactional, check-the-box sort of way -- see networking and interviews as a mirror into the job you would land and an opportunity for two-way assessment of fit- Consider how many roles/industries you're applying to-- this may be a sign that you'd want to take a step back and pursue career exploration to clarify your ideal fit direction; career clarity will help make your search more efficient, targeted, and effective- Don't ignore your self care to ensure your mindset is staying resilient during your searchBy the way, I'm Rachel Serwetz, a Career Exploration Coach & and I'm happy to schedule a free initial career coaching call if you'd like! Check my profile for my website, link to schedule a call, bio, and more.