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Tackling Gender Bias: How to respond to - " Who is the technical person in the room?"

Hello fellow women in tech, I wanted to seek your advice on how to handle a common gender bias question that I encounter in my workplace. Whenever I, as a female product manager, meet with business stakeholders, I often get asked the question 'Who is the technical person in the room?' implying that I may not have the technical knowledge or expertise to answer their questions. This is frustrating and undermines my authority as a leader.

Have any of you faced a similar situation and how did you handle it? What are some effective ways to challenge and combat this gender bias assumption? I want to ensure that my technical skills and knowledge are recognized and valued in the workplace. Thank you for your insights and advice.

I've faced a similar question in previous roles. My response would always be to assert my technical expertise clearly. For example, when I sold computers, I was the top performer on our sales team and had the greatest depth of technical knowledge. I was also the only woman. Frequently, I would greet customers and offer my help and get a response along the lines of, "Thanks, but we want to wait to speak to him [pointing to one of my coworkers]." I would respond with, "Absolutely! If you decide you'd rather not wait, I'm the top salesperson on our team. I have [x] years of experience with computers and have personally built [x] computers from scratch, so I'm more than capable of assisting you." Nearly every time, they would magically change their minds and let me help them.In your specific example, you could respond by asserting that as the leader of the project, you've been directly involved in / responsible for the technical planning and thus you are more than capable of answering any questions they may have.
I'm sure you are a badass, but I honestly feel like this response undermines what you're capable of. I would keep it short and sweet for a**holes who are already assuming I'm worthless and not try to prove myself to them.
It kind of does honestly, but I guess I'm used to feeling like I have to be super explicit about my qualifications to be taken seriously (which sucks!!).
I agree in principle, but in practice I think this approach is successful because it allows the listener to acknowledge their biases quietly and then feel ownership over the decision to stick with OP, vs feeling forced to acknowledge more frontally that they were being sexist. Is that right? Definitely not! But I think human psychology is often such that we have to offer people 50% more grace than they are owed to build productive relationships.
I just smile and reply "I am".
I like the short and sweet approach, too.