Caregiver leave / sick parent

Hi Elphas,

I recently started a new job. What do you think is the best time to convey to my new employer that I have a terminally ill parent? The condition has been in play for the past 10 years. I've gotten dinged by past employers in the past for not revealing this information and others have brought it up at weird times - like asking about health conditions during promotion cycles (totally unprofessional!).

A couple of years ago, I was on caregiver leave, but my previous employer furrowed their brows when I used sick time to be a caregiver. My current employer doesn't have a dedicated caregiver policy, but a generous sick one. My current supervisor is much more emotionally aware than those in previous roles.

Just curious what you think is the right time to deliver bad news.