Research: Men Get More Actionable Feedback Than Womenhttps://hbr.org/2021/02/research-men-get-more-actionable-feedback-than-women

Also interesting that this study was led by female researchers!!

yes true!
Thank you so much for sharing!
It is very interesting and yes, unfortunately, I have had first-hand experience of this. The "get along" one is particularly interesting and typical of what's thought of us female folk by a number of senior men that is when we speak up and out.

Yep I totally agree. I've also been told that I need to "get along" better with others - when I felt like I was just trying to engage in healthy debate (and this feedback actually came from other women)
I think the difference between 'be more' and 'display more' [X characteristic] is super interesting. 'Display' assumes you already possess this characteristic; 'be' assumes you need to change something about yourself. Feedback I've gotten in the past included 'be more assertive' and I think had someone said 'display more assertiveness' it would have seemed more attainable. Like, I don't need to change who I am, I just need to display a certain element of my personality more in this position.

so true! so subtle, but the meaning is much different