Should I quit the toxic job I started a week ago?

teresaman's profile thumbnail
So sorry to hear about the lack of boundaries and respect towards work hours at your new role! I'm here to share a resource that our team has put together on thinking about when to leave your job (especially for those in your case who have just started!) - it may be helpful for you as you're thinking through how to go about your current situatuon: https://elpha.com/resources/how-to-quit-your-job-just-started
Thank you!
annamiller's profile thumbnail
HI, Thanks for sharing your situation on here. What you describe is a very toxic environment and I suggest to restart the job search right now. Here's what I do, put in 1-2 weeks PTO asap, restart the job search, get very clear on how to look for good culture fit and to test during the interview if you can for any toxic work culture. Put in your notice at the end of the month or as soon as you can, depending on your financial needs.Think of it this way - the more time you spend in this job, the less time you have to find a job that values you and IS a good culture fit. Most importantly, don't get sucked in because toxic places can suck you in, just like toxic relationships.Happy to support on a call, to chat further on this and create a gameplan, feel free to Dm me.
I appreciate this a lot, thank you. I don't have any PTO until 3 months into this role, but I might take you up on your offer to create a gameplan.
Get out as soon as you can. You owe them nothing. But, use what you learned in this situation to judge any new offers. Ask lots and lots of specific questions next time about daily culture and definitely sort our expectations with your next manager.
Thank you!
megsandtorv's profile thumbnail
That sounds awful. Take it from someone who gutted it through in a toxic environment for a year, it only gets worse. And the normalization of that behavior took such a toll on my mental health, I'm only just recovering from it a year later. The longer you stay, the more reasons you'll come up with why you should. I would also start the job search now... if you have enough of a financial cushion, I would leave as soon as you can and just leave it off your resume (Alison Green at Ask a Manager has a lot of advice on this). If not, I'd still start heavily job searching with the intention of leaving as soon as you get an offer. I don't know what kind of roles you work in, but my company (Series E company with ~actual~ great culture) has been on a hiring spree - if you DM me, I'm happy to give you a referral.
Thank you, I am going to send you a DM soon!
ilonatrn's profile thumbnail
As someone who had put in several years in a similar environment and recently started working in a positive, professional environment, I will corroborate that this is 1) not normal 2) going to impact your perception of future workplaces as you normalize it and 3) going to escalate into undue emotional and mental turmoil. I had never been more relieved than when I left that job. It sounds like you can easily leave this off your resume if you leave asap. It may seem tenable to stick it out for a year or two, but trust me, it will only get worse.
ilonatrn's profile thumbnail
Also I'm sorry you are going through this!!