So there I was: this woman reached out to me with the job title I wanted and the salary I wanted and everything else about the role sounded like a dream. It's remote, has a small team, supports women founders.

Then I started the job and that's when I saw how toxic the enviornmnet was.

My manager (the only person I work with), said I cannot ask her questions and instead need to find my own answers first. For example, I heard mention of a weekly meeting and asked her when or where it was - to which she responded that I needed to look for it myself. I eventually found it in an old Slack archive from way before I started working there, but felt really odd about the whole thing.

Other toxic signs: my employees text me so it's not on Slack's record to ask me how I'm doing and to ask them questions, as long as I don't tell my manager. My manager told me they work a strict 9-5, but now expects me to work 7 AM to 7 PM. She texts me after work at all hours to do work tasks. She tells me to spend time on tasks, then tells me to be faster on tasks.

There are many inconsistencies, poor communication, fear among employees, and to top it all off - this manager gives all of us on the team "life coaching" every week.

I'm curious how others here would cope, if at all, and when would be a good time to exit the company. Any advice appreciated!