Learning to work and walk through self doubt

HannahBaldovino's profile thumbnail
Love this!! Thanks so much for sharing, Lydia. I just read this great book "Everything is figureoutable" by Marie Forleo and it talks a lot about these thoughts. I often get stuck into thinking, "Well, I'm not good at this so I won't do it" rather than "How can i get good at this" that shift is SO powerful. This year I'm really trying to remind myself, "Progress not perfection"
lydiaume's profile thumbnail
Thanks for the reccomendation, I'll add it to my list. "Progress not perfection" I love that as a mantra.
susanfung's profile thumbnail
I agree with @HannahBaldovino. It’s about progress not perfection.I’m still not a software developer by profession, but I am developing a time tracking / employee scheduler web app in React at my current job as a Payroll Administrator. I have very little coding experience but this project is definitely helping me build those skills. I still have doubts that my code is not good enough but I do research, talk to people & learn as much as I can to make it better.
lydiaume's profile thumbnail
Yesss! The more you practice, you get better at the skill. Thanks for reading and engaging.
korilinn's profile thumbnail
YESSSS. I love this so much. As a career coach, this is exactly the kind of thing I work on with my own clients. (And as a business owner, this is exactly the kind of thing I get coached on by my own coaches.) Worrying that we're not good enough keeps us from trying, keeps us from learning, AND also keeps us from seeing that often, what we can already do is actually pretty dang good. Even if we do need to upskill, trying can show us where exactly we need to do that upskilling. But what I often see again and again is that we're better than we thought we were, and that we can add value now, even if we also want to keep leveling up. So glad you wrote this. And for anyone who wants more resources, this is exactly the kind of thing I discuss and teach about on my podcast, which you can find here: https://www.korilinn.com/podcastI've got episodes on imposter syndrome, getting critical feedback, perfectionism, and more.
lydiaume's profile thumbnail
I will definitely be checking out your podcast. Thanks so much for reading and engaging.
LouiseHeite's profile thumbnail
Such an important conversation Lydia and thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. The self-sabotaging tendencies of self-doubt are real. Alongside your and others' great shares, I also believe it to be valuable to ask ourselves 'Did I do my best work?' after every project delivered or a content piece written. Building in the time for self-reflection gives us the opportunity to celebrate our wins and a chance to focus our attention on what we want to improve (through courses, practice, etc.). All while building confidence in the process. My mantra: Confidence is not a requirement, it's the result. Lx
DianePrince's profile thumbnail
Hi Lydia, a tool that I use to deal with self-doubt is called "Two truths."The way it works is 1st accept that you feel self-doubt. Take the time to observe and acknowledge that feeling. That is one of your truths.AND, also at the same time you take the next actions on your business. This is another truth for you. For example, try saying to yourself, This is me being plagued with self-doubt AND this is also me getting the first draft done, while I'm feeling self-doubt. I'm a total believer in progress not perfection! Getting good with living in grey areas, even though it's uncomfortable at first, helps to stop the black and white thinking that paralyzes productivity. Please let me know if you have questions about this.
Suzy's profile thumbnail
Love hearing about your experience, Lydia! I'm in the position right now where I'm taking on responsibilities that I've long dreamed about but now that I'm here, I am terrified and often paralyzed by the desire to be near perfect...at something I've never done! "Getting the first (often shitty) version done so you can get the corrections and move on fast" is sage advice that will hopefully help me today and in the next few days as I try to make progress.
jordansale's profile thumbnail
I love this all so much - thank you for sharing + getting the conversation going @lydiaume I was recently anxious about something and venting to a friend and she asked me "How would you feel about all if this if you were in a secure place right now?"I thought it was pretty transformative. If I was in a secure place, I would've felt way calmer and more confident that things were going to work themselves out. It helped me take a step back and realize that, in part, I was choosing a mindset I didn't need to.I feel like that question can also be applied to work - especially when there's a project you're nervous about or feel unsure of.